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Welcome to Effie + Ros! Named after my two wonderful grannies, Effie + Ros is here to support, nurture and empower women on their pregnancy, birth and motherhood journey. I want to help you uncover the innate brilliance within you, whatever stage of the journey you are on to make the motherhood journey an easier, more gentle and joyful ride.

Our values are COMMUNITY, NURTURE, SUPPORT, EDUCATION, JOY and EMPOWERMENT.

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  • I have a bit of a funny relationship with the word 'sorry' at the moment. I have been on a course called Thrive with @keri_do.it.like.a.mother - it's INCREDIBLE - and the idea of 'sorry' came up a lot in that and it's been on my mind... πŸ€” Obviously (?!) I am a sensible and relatively normal, empathetic person and I appreciate there IS a place for the word sorry, of COURSE. But are how mindful are you of how you use it??
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✨If my kids loose the plot a bit, I've noticed them saying 'sorry mummy' ... but mostly I don't want them to apologise, obviously unless they've done something mean or unkind. Mostly they are tired or hungry or under pressure. I don't want them to say sorry, because I want them to UNDERSTAND and RECOGNISE their emotions. Saying sorry doesn't help - I want them to know they are normal emotions and not to have to apologise for it. I want them to notice.
✨Sorry is a big one in birth too. Not wanting to upset people, midwives, care providers. I'm not talking about being a dick πŸ˜‚πŸ€£, but recognising what YOU want from your birth and having the confidence to ask questions, rather than being apologetic for being in the way/annoying/inconvenient... ✨We say sorry out of expectation. Expectation of what other people might think. If a toddler takes a toy from another toddler, I really don't think we need to be apologising...toddlers brains aren't developed enough to understand sorry or sharing. YES, teach them and encourage them to share, but if we apologise are we not diminishing ourselves, our kids?? ✨Sorry as a mum... Sorry I can't make it, sorry I didn't bake a cake, make homemade dinner... But are you really sorry?!! Honestly?! Or were you just following what was the right thing for you at that moment?
✨NOTICE how it makes you feel. Are you saying sorry because you're worrying about other people, or because you really are sorry?
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Try it!! It feels really amazing to think more about what you want, that it's okay to put yourself first πŸ’• I'd love to know what you think????
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My NEW shiny website is LIVE today!!! I'm doing more motherhood support, Mindful Magic mindfulness for kids...and there's LOTS of lovely stuff coming in 2019✨🧘πŸ’ͺπŸ™ŒπŸ‘£πŸ‘€πŸ™πŸ’›
  • I absolutely love this divine @_jennylewis_ photo for her #onedayyoung book. It really does look like a painting! I can't explain it any better than Jenny does so I've copied her caption below πŸ‘‡βœ¨πŸ™Œ Those tiny little hands, and how floppy the head is πŸ’•
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I do wish we'd had proper newborn pictures taken, and don't get me started on how I'd have a photographer at the birth of we had another (which we won't!!) πŸ“ΈπŸ˜‚ I just wasn't in that zone at the time, but it's such a beautiful moment to capture.
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Did you/will you have professional photos taken? πŸ€±πŸ‘ΆπŸ€°πŸ£πŸ’• ...
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From @_jennylewis_ This was the final version of Nicola I selected for the book. It was important to make the audience realise the rawness of the moment. To witness the red flesh , purple feet with circulation barely working at the extremities. To bring the viewer into the action like a Caravaggio painting, you are part of the journey the witness to the strength power and bonding of a new mother with her child. The unbreakable gaze, neck having to be cradled not yet having the strength to hold itself. A visual triangle flesh of the leg.. baby mother, guiding you through the image. Details of embroidery on the chair and the drapes of her dressing gown reminiscent of an exquisite painting. A reassuringly timeless moment but if you look closer the modern fabric and a plastic hairbrush in the background bring you into the modern day. The tension in tiny hands and feet ... a reaction to cool air on the babies skin after we unceremoniously unwrapped her for a photo is balanced by the oversized calming hand of the mother encapsulating her child while she oversees the scene.. a goddess creator of life. This is how I see this portrait, how I read it. I’m not sure I ll ever nail it in the same way again but nothing was planned just a moment caught with a visual language gradually absorbed over the years. This is another of my rejects from The Taylor Wessing and other Awards.. I’m not moaning or whining but sometimes I do wonder what they are after or if it was entered now rather than back in 2014 whether it would be selected. Are times changing. #onedayyoung  #motherhood
  • I had a really lovely class on Friday with a couple I'm working with. They are coming to the end of our course and we talked about two things I wanted for them...
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⚑For them to NOTICE what's going on - tune into their breath, notice tension, any emotions
⚑To KNOW that they have EVERYTHING they need within them, whatever happens in their birth, that they have the knowledge, education and strength within them to deal with whatever they notice πŸ’ͺπŸ™ŒπŸ’•πŸ‘£
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I am LOVING this idea, it really works for me. Just noticing. Recognising when my mind is jumping around, onto the next thing. Instead focusing on what I'm doing NOW. Am I carrying tension? Worrying about things that haven't even happened yet? Noticing if I'm not tuning into my body. Emotionally and physically. It is a complete game changer with the kids.
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In birth this idea of noticing is amazing - your maternal instinct is SO strong. How are you feeling? What feels good or not so good? And your birth partner needs to notice what's going on with themselves, with you, with the environment. And if you have had a decent antenatal education, you'll have so many simple, and in some ways quite obvious once you know πŸ˜‰, tools and techniques that you can draw on 😊
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We also talked about why call it 'hypnobirthing'? Why not just 'antenatal education'? It IS just education...informing, empowering, giving you the info I truly think you need, and you can run with it any way you like πŸ’•βš‘ But you need that information and knowledge so that you CAN notice and then not feel fear, tension, but instead KNOW that you are a complete powerhouse and can absolutely do this!! *
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  • @thelovelywellnessco and I are organising our next Pregnancy Wellness Retreat on 🌈19 January 🌈 & it would make SUCH a dreamy present for a pregnant lady. I know I am biased but I really genuinely believe this!! Our first one was a couple of weeks ago and the reviews were amazing (see photos πŸ‘†). They loved it. We loved it. Lots of love all round πŸ’•
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So you get...
⚑An hour of pregnancy yoga
⚑An hour of hypnobirthing with a guided relaxation
⚑ An hour of infant first aid with an advanced Paeds Intensive Care nurse
⚑ An hour of learning how DoTerra essential oils can support you beautifully in pregnancy and labour
⚑Afternoon tea - homemade goodies and treats from the wonderful @thepregnancyfoodcompany
⚑ A 20 minutes guided relaxation to end.
⚑An amazing goody bag (I am actually really very proud of these!! Actual real sized goodies not just flyers and samples 🀨😍).
⚑The option of joining a private Facebook group just for those on your Retreat ... to follow up on ANY questions and keep in touch with other local mammas.
⚑ If you book before Christmas a voucher will all be beautifully wrapped with a little extra relaxation gift πŸ’•
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Are you in? πŸ™ŒπŸ‘£πŸ˜Š Do you know a pregnant lady who would love this? πŸŽ… 🌲 πŸŽ† 🎁
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Kate xx
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  • The information I teach as part of my course is the stuff I truly believe EVERY pregnant woman and her partner should know before they give birth πŸ’ͺ This post was inspired by comments on my Facebook post yesterday. People who wished they'd known the reasons, statistics or theory behind certain midwifery and medical practices in childbirth. ⚑What are the reasons people fret about big babies? ⚑When was the system by which we calculate due dates developed? (the answer is 1744 and I suggest possibly in need of an update 🀨) ⚑What possible scenarios might I face if I have a sweep?
⚑Etc etc etc...
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We are ALL different. We have different pregnancies, different births, different pain thresholds, different values. So birth is different for everyone. Yet we all fit within the same system. That's fine but if we are all to make our own choices so we feel confident, empowered and in control of our experiences, then we need all the information πŸ§πŸ‘©β€πŸŽ“
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Hypnobirthing is JUST antenatal education. All the hypnobirthing teachers I know and follow on social media subscribe to the idea that we are empowering women by giving them all the knowledge and confience for ANY kind of birth, planned section or homebirth. There ARE hypnobirthing purists who are focused on a specific type of birth - I know this because my very original training (before @thecalmbirthschool) was focused on a specific birth outcome. That isn't how I see my role though πŸ™…πŸŒˆπŸ‘£
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So if you're thinking you're not 'the type of person' who does hypnobirthing, I urge you to think again!! Yes there are different styles of hypnobirthing and we all have different approaches, but that is a really wonderful thing πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•
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#hypnobirthing #youdontknowwhatyoudontknow #beprepared #readyforbirth #antenatalclass #antenatalpreparation #antenataleducation #hypnobirthingpractitioner #knowyourchoices #yourbirthyourway #empowered #empoweredbirth #ownyourbirth #Teddington #kingston #hampton #richmond #kew #eastsheen #mortlake #barnes #richmondborough #beprepared

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