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welcome to effie + ros mindfulness

I am delighted you stopped by. Effie + Ros was set up as a way for me to follow my passion and interest in mindfulness, children, parenting and creating a gentler, calmer, more intuitive version of all these things. I hope to share my ideas, experiences, the things I have learnt, mixed in with a few classes and in-person sessions too. I hope you enjoy.

ways to explore mindfulness

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Breathe

Simple, calming breathing exercises. Taking our attention to our breath helps us ground ourselves and bring ourselves back into the present moment. It takes a few minutes and can be used at any time at home to support both children and parents.

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Focus

We are so distracted in the modern world of technology, yet our children have a natural focus. The ability to notice things we may not have otherwise noticed, focus and concentrate on the small things can help us to understand the idea that everything is temporary, even our thoughts.

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Move

Movement is an incredible mindful tool, especially if the thought of sitting still and quietly is a little intimidating! Mindfulness isn’t all about sitting quietly. It is an awareness of our physical selves as well as emotional.

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Create

We are all naturally mindful, especially when they are creating, in flow. This is mindfulness in its truest form. Pop over to our blog for lots of eco-friendly, sustainable, mindful crafts for kids and adults to enjoy.

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Meditate

Lots of children love a guided meditation! It is a gorgeous chance to get cosy with blankets and pillows, teddies for the younger children, and listen to short, empowering guided meditations. A chance to switch off, listen and to just BE.

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  • Green Cleaning School πŸ‘©β€πŸ«πŸ“–πŸšΈ The lovely @natleemandoterra is running a Green Cleaning School FREE on Facebook next week with the also lovely @contentedcompany - I'm joining in, I can't actually wait and I had to share! πŸ€—
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They are sharing 'clean cleaning' chemical free, eco, green, sustainable tips for different rooms in the house 🏑 and you can win goodies too. Yay!!
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I've made a few batches of lemon and vinegar spray this year but that's as far as I've got...so I'm off to order the goodies we need πŸ’• πŸ‘‰ https://www.facebook.com/groups/GCSaugust2019/
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Who else is in?? xx πŸ“Έ @natleemandoterra
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  • This was such a simple activity and kids loved it! We used air dry clay and added mini stones and crystals, but you could also use any beans or pulses, lentils....dried flowers chopped into little sprinkles (though we found them a bit tricky to stick in, I'm thinking we'll use some glue next time!)
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You could also use salt dough - I've added a recipe from @grays_at_play to my stories and Jessie has loads more on her 'recipes' highlights πŸ’•
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This will definitely have to be incorporated into a Mindful Magic session πŸ₯°
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  • 🌟Our wandering minds 🌟You try to sit with your thoughts. To take a few minutes. Your mind jumps to something someone said yesterday πŸ™ˆ the washing, taking the kids out.... Oh no!! You realise your mind has wandered and try and block out the thoughts. You're being mindful! You have to be present! Mind wanders 🀯 On repeat. You decide it's too hard, you're not good at it, and get up and on with your day. Whatever πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ you don't have time for mindfulness. And the KIDS! They won't sit still either!! How can you expect them to do the same? They fidget and squirm and chat and their little minds can't block out the thoughts πŸ˜£πŸ’­πŸ§ 
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Will you allow me to reframe this for you?
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Your wandering mind IS mindful if you just observe it. You are a thinking, cognitive being. You just cannot control, stop or prevent your thoughts. That's a helpful function of being human! Instead EMBRACE the thoughts. Allow them. Observe them. Notice them. And let them go. We aren't clearing our minds. We are watching our minds. The thoughts help us understand what's happening inside us. They are helpful!
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Look πŸ‘€ at this picture of this little guy πŸ‘†He's in the moment. Focused. Kids are naturally mindful. Mindfulness is less about forcing them to sit still, clear their minds, more about encouraging them to see their innate mindfulness for themselves, embrace the moments, focus and just continue be-ing. We are slowing, noticing, focusing... πŸ₯°
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You don't need to sit with the thoughts if it's uncomfortable. Maybe just challenge yourself to notice for a few moments while you're doing the washing up - check in with your mind and body. You don't have to block anything, just notice enough to see what's going on πŸ§πŸ€”πŸ’« Join my stories later and I'll share a few simple  non-sitting still ideas for adults and kids xx
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  • I mentioned this book by Gordon Neufeld and @gabormatemd on my stories a few days ago and lots of people were interested so here it is!! πŸ™Œ I'm only about 70 pages in but it's really EXCELLENT, I'm loving it. It's basically about how kids are becoming more and more oriented towards and led, influenced, by their peers, much more so than adults. Of course peer relationships are so important and valuable, but the point they make is that if peers replace parents/adults it can begin negative for our kids - lovely as they might be, they simply aren't mature enough, physically or emotionally, to act as an orienting compass for our kids.
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The authors attribute much of this to cultural customs and traditions changing - less family time, life is more expensive so we are all busier, we live far from extended family much of the time... It really has also made me think about how we deal with technology - iPads, phones...social media...and our kids. My oldest is approaching 8 and isn't a million miles away from pre-teen-hood 😬 and I'm slightly terrified of the teenage years πŸ€ͺπŸ˜‚ I could see myself being slightly pressured into getting a phone so she doesn't miss out with her friends for example, but the point the book makes is that that's just offering more chance to kids to lean into their peers.
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It also encourages questioning how we label 'difficult' teenage behaviour, as just 'part of the process' rather than as a symptom of a lack of a mature orienting force.
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It's not a case for no technology by ANY means, in fact it's encouraged in some ways. Nor is it a case of locking your kids up in a box πŸ˜œπŸ˜‚ but it IS food for thought about how we navigate our relationships with the kids.
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I don't know the answer yet as I haven't got that far... but I'll share more when I have finished! @gabormatemd definitely does it far more justice than me 😊
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I'll keep you posted as I get further into it! Have you read it? πŸ€“πŸ“š
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  • My gals ❀️ I've just shared my thoughts on keeping mindfulness simple over in my Facebook group. I think mindfulness can seem very intimidating in a busy world, another thing to DO, another thing we 'should' be thinking of, AND sharing with our kids πŸ€ͺπŸ˜– But this is exactly not what Mindful Magic is about.
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Someone said to me recently that they try and spend five minutes walking completely mindfully, in the moment, with the pram for about five minutes. Totally present. She said that she couldn't do it for any longer though, cos, ya know, it's intense.
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Well, yeah, it would be. Mindful walking can be a really wonderful thing and if this fully present approach works for you, that's awesome, stick with it. BUT it shouldn't feel intense, or something we have to force, or find more time for.
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Mindfulness is πŸ‘‰ Noticing. Observing. Awareness. You CAN notice when you're doing the dishes or packing for holidays...just by tuning in a little to yourself - are you carrying tension? Are you worrying about something that hasn't happened? Projecting into the future? Worrying about the past? It's about tuning in, noticing what you find with curiousity and letting the thoughts go. It is something you can do anytime, anywhere and it doesn't require an allocated slot of time βŒ›β°
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As @mum_wife_friend shared in our Mindful Magic Mentors group... Less 'practising' mindfulness. More observing. ❀️🌞
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So if you find mindfulness a bit overwhelming or inaccessible (and even if you don't!!), can I encourage you to keep it simple? Everything is within us, we just need to access it 😘
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